Have you been “riding a bit of the funk bus lately”? Recent conversations with clients have been following a trend around self-criticism and discouragement. I am hearing things like:
“Why am I not hearing back from this company? What is wrong with me?”
“I should have gotten on the ball sooner.”
“Somehow I have hit a wall…is more of a hurdle than I anticipated. I’m sure I am playing head games with myself. I’ve been riding a bit of the funk bus lately and it’s time for me to disembark.”
“I don’t have what it takes to make the career transition I want to make.”
“Even though the current individual that is leaving the role I am interviewing for is making X, I don’t think I can ask for that.”
These types of questions and comments can lead to discouragement and giving up.
Most of us are well versed in knowing we need to take care of our physical bodies. We also need to ensure our minds are strong. This is part of the resilience and adaptability I have been posting about on LinkedIN lately.
Here are a couple of recommendations to put into regular practice to build your mental resilience and adaptability:
- When you notice you are feeling sorry for yourself, nip it in the bud. See if you can shift to a thought that feels better. So using one of the examples above, when you notice the thought, “I should have gotten on the ball sooner,” you can introduce the thought “What can I do today to move myself forward?”
- Stick with only what you can control. You can’t control what a company is or not doing during your search. You can control your actions. Is it time to send an email to your contact to get a status? What about focusing on other opportunities and let that one go for now?
- Invest your energy in the present and creating an optimal future. Acknowledging the past and use it as an opportunity to get clarity on lessons learned, don’t get mired in it.
- Don’t give up after failure. Willing to fail again and again, if necessary, as long as the learning experience from every “failure” can bring you closer to your ultimate goals.
As my client expressed, it is time to disembark from the funk bus!!!!! YOU’VE GOT THIS!!!!!!!
I also wanted to share another communication I got from a client to continue to reinforce that there is good news during this time of uncertainty NOTE: I removed the specific offer details:
Hey Michele – hope all is well – wanted to let you know I received 2 offers one last week and one this week – last week was a good offer but not a cultural fit – the one I received tonight is pretty awesome!
I plan to accept that offer but wanted to run it by you / comp person and validate it’s a good offer – the details package I should have tomorrow, and no requirement to relocate until my son graduates high school –
Let me know your thoughts! Thanks for your help during this process.
I hope you enjoy and get value out of this week’s round-up of curated articles just for you that I know are providing the best of the best in the areas of Job Search, Career Transition/Exploration, Career Advancement/Leadership Development and Work-Life Balance/ Mindfulness.
I would love your feedback because this really is for you. If you have requests of what you would like to see or want to ask me any questions, feel free to reach out to me.
Have a great week. I will be sending positive energy your way.
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